About a month ago I stumbled across some videos on YouTube about “Nonviolent Communication.” Nonviolent Communication, or NVC, is a system of communicating that, hence the name, is free from any language that could possible lead to violence. As it’s creator, Marshall Rosenberg says, “It’s a language of the heart.” I thought the videos were a little corny at first, with the hand puppets and all, but I really see something useful in them. With NVC, you can learn to never be insulted or angered by what another person says. NVC explains that anytime someone attacks you or moralistically judges you, they are actually just trying to express an unmet need, and their feelings. For example: if you accidentally got a little too close to someone while passing them in traffic, they may yell out their window at you, “You fucking idiot! Watch where you’re going!” Well, in NVC, you wouldn’t take it personally. You would know that they are, in the only way they know how, trying to express that they are scared, because they have a need to feel safe while driving their car, or maybe they are angry, because they have a need to be acknowledged and respected. I know I may be making in sound touchy-feely, but there’s a lot of practicality and simplicity to it. I’ll attach the first seminar on NVC that I saw on YouTube to the bottom of this post. I hope you get as much or more out of it as I did.
And, while we’re sort of on the topic of YouTube, has anyone else noticed Google’s aggressive “nudge” to get YouTube users to use their full name? It seems like every day I get the same prompting… “Get a better name on YouTube!” You are then ran through a gauntlet of Google pushiness to consolidate your YouTube user name with your G+ profile name. I swear, it’s like navigating a maze trying to figure out how to get it to leave your user name as is. I mean, I’m not really concerned about anonymity. I have links on my YouTube channel straight to this blog, where my full name is common knowledge. I just happen to like my YouTube user name. People know me there as erickeVolved, and I don’t have any desire to change it. So, just relax Google. I love your tech, but for Pete’s sake… stop acting like a bunch of Nazis.
As promised, Marshall Rosenberg, explaining Nonviolent Communication: